“Remember, When You Point a Finger at Someone, There Are Three More Pointing Back at You” – Unknown

Written for and published in The Seeds 4 Life:

How easy it is for us to point at each other and criticize one another’s shortcomings, flaws, and wrong doings? How easy it is for us to point at each other and blame one another for our hurts and disappointments?

While we are blaming and criticizing others, we are forgetting one important fact: when we point the finger at someone, three of them are pointed right back at us.  They point back at us to remind us that regardless of who or what we may feel is responsible for our current state and situation, ultimately, the responsibility is ours. We have three times more control than the one we point our finger to. We also have three times more responsibility than the one we point our finger to.

They also point back at us to remind us, the imperfections we point out in others are also in us. When we are pointing at another’s shortcoming’s and flaws, we are only defining ourselves as intolerant and judgmental. Those three fingers pointed back at us reminds us to self-reflect and recognize, and accept our imperfections and shortcomings instead of pointing them out in another.

When we point our finger at the world, we give up control of where and what we are. This shifts responsibilities for our actions and reactions to others, when in fact, it is ours. We are responsible for our actions, as well as our consequences.  We can either be slaves to the belief the world is to blame or we can recognize we are powerful beings in this world, capable of creating love and positive change.

As Mahatma Gandhi once encouraged, “BE THE CHANGE.” This does not begin by pointing the finger, it begins by paying attention to the three pointed back at ourselves.

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3 thoughts on ““Remember, When You Point a Finger at Someone, There Are Three More Pointing Back at You” – Unknown

  1. Hi ! I’m Brooke the author of thefrecklyfawn.com. I found this post on theseeds4life and really loved it. It got me thinking about how we can only love and accept others if learn to love and accept ourselves. Look forward to reading more from you!

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    1. Hi Brooke,
      Really happy to hear it resonated with you. It took me a difficult relationship to come to this conclusion. How am I impacting the situation, myself, the other person?
      I still get to practice this in my daily life, and taking responsibility allows me to feel in control.
      As you mentioned,loving and accepting ourselves is OUR responsibility. I am so glad you saw this with this seed. We can’t point at someone and expect love and acceptance if we are not doing that for ourselves.
      Thank you for reading and sharing your site and thoughts. I am looking forward to checking out http://www.thefrecklyfawn.com.
      Always love,
      Lily

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