“Lose Some To Win Some…Story of a Champion” – Jay Z

Written for and Published in The Seeds 4 Life.

A champion. Someone to be admired. Usually a master at their craft and usually, that’s when we notice them – when they have mastered their craft.

We do not see the trial and errors. We do not see the failures. We do not see the 1000 times they fell and the 1001 times they got back up.

And before that 1001 times they got back up? Still a Champion. Because a Champion earns their badge by failing and trying again. They earn their badge by moving forward, using what happened yesterday as a PUSH towards their goal.  They do not sit idle waiting, they sit to REST when they need to.

A champion. In every struggle, in every failure. We get back up. Earn our badge. And still a Champion.

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“Stop Shrinking Yourself to Fit in Places You’ve Outgrown” – Unknown

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We hold on to what’s comfortable. We hold on so tightly, that we become part of it. Where we live, a significant other, a job, a habit. We believe we belong to it and it belongs to us. Even if it no longer makes us grow. Even if the shoe no longer fits, the love becomes stale, the job sucks at our soul, the habit becomes destructive – it’s comfortable and we hold on.

The thing about comfort is that it convinces us anything outside of it is too foreign to accept. Anything outside of it is scary. Anything outside of it will not fit. Anything outside of it is past our ability to understand. But our roots know better. Our roots know in order to grow, it needs to grow past comfort zones.

And if the things we belong to no longer serves our growth, if the love is stale, the shoe is too small, the job has left our soul thirsty, our habits have become destructive, we have contracted. We have forced ourselves to shrink. We have forced ourselves to fit into places our roots have grown past. Our roots know, it’s ok if we expand as well. Because LOVE is the energy that expands and FEAR is the energy that contracts.

So, choose LOVE. Grow. Expand. The other side of comfort waits.

“When You Blame Others, You Give up Your Power to Change” – Robert Anthony

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Just as our decisions will impact at least one person, we may be that one person another’s decision may impact. None of us are immune to the possible consequences of another’s reckless choice. However, we ourselves have a choice in how we react and what we take away from someone’s wrongdoing or indirect effect.

There is a time in our lives when we seem powerless. When we are children and we are at the mercy of our parents or caretakers. When we rely on them for security and compassion. When we are trusting of their care and love. We are vulnerable and are deserving of a safe and loving environment. Unfortunately, many of us are aware of, or are products of, circumstances where everything is needed but never provided. Many of us bear deep wounds that have yet to heal and scars that tell unbearable stories – but here we are. Even wounded and scarred, we are here; holding the responsibility of never doing the things that hurt us, to someone else.

Yes, the responsibility is now ours. To take everything that has been given to us and to alchemize it to better. To refuse, under any circumstance, to transfer our pain to someone else. To understand, when we continue to look for another to blame, the finger that points at them is also sending our power in that direction.

There are experiences that are painful and may have hardened our hearts, but those experiences will dictate our lives if we do not stand up to them and remind them, “You were a paragraph in my life. A bridge into another chapter. You are not the story itself. The only power I am allowing you to have is the power to propel me into change. A change for the better.”

“Where You Invest Your Love, You Invest Your Life” – Mumford & Sons

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Life can get busy. It pulls us in so many directions that often times, time passes and we don’t even know where it went. But let’s take a moment and take an inventory of our life. Where does our time go?

Into our careers? Into our families? Into ourselves? How much of our time goes into the things we actually enjoy and love?

There are many things that should be at the forefront our life’s inventory, but if our inventory does not include anything that ignites our soul, makes our heart smile, or allows us to keep dreaming and creating, what then are we investing our lives in?

We are not doing this planet any justice, if we are not investing some of our time into the things that we love – may it be ourselves, a garden, writing, animals, a home, our children. Whatever it may be.

The consciousness of this place deserves our happiness. It’s infectious, it’s inspiring. It makes us better people. It makes this world a better place. Invest your life into the things you love, because “where you invest your love, you invest your life.”

“Sawubona – I See You” – African Zulu Greeting

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“Hello.” A greeting is an acknowledgement of the person we are meeting.

It is a word which unites us with another in our introductory moment.

However, if we pay attention to our thoughts, we may notice the background noise of judgment, insecurities, motives, and impression. It may be human nature to decide upon the “hello,” if that person is worthy of our attention and time; and this exchange is based on how we see ourselves before seeing anybody else.

“Sawubona,” is an African Zulu greeting which translates to, “I see you, and by seeing you, I bring you into being.” (Susan David). Sawubona provides an opportunity for us to turn off the background noise and to be present in the moment of introduction.

To see the person for who THEY are, unbiased of our opinions and judgement. It can provide a space for genuine connection in recognizing another’s presence in our life and vice versa.

When we acknowledge another person and bring them into being as themselves, it opens up the space for also be recognized as who we are.  The background noise of judgement and insecurities will fade and the gift of openness will allow for all parties to stay comfortable in their skin.

What a different world it would be if we all greeted one another with the Sawubona intention? To see another as themselves and to welcome genuine connection.

Sawubona.

“Wherever You Go, There You Are” – Unknown

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We sit and look around wishing for a change of scenery. Maybe to more tropical climates. Maybe far away from the hustle and bustle of life. Maybe closer to the sea or far into the woods. Wherever it may be, we are calling for a change of scenery.  Apparently, where we sit now is not fulfilling our spirit. What we see is not feeding our soul. We are not connected to the place we are living in.

A change of scenery is calling.

And some of us will answer that call and move ourselves to these places. To warmer climates. Closer to the sea or into the woods. We will again seek fulfillment for our spirit, for our soul. Looking outside to the world to fill our cup. And then we realize, this change of scenery is not what we thought it would be.

The beauty of a new place fades, we still seek fulfillment, we still seek.

Until we see our reflection in that window looking out into the world, we see ourselves. The same eyes, the same spirit, the same soul, waiting for the change of scenery to give us whatever we are asking for.  But how can a change of scenery give us – the same eyes, the same spirit, the same soul – the fulfillment we are demanding?

How can an unchanged perspective invite in change? How can a closed mind accept something different? How can we seek SOUL food when we stuff ourselves with egoic waste?

The change of scenery will not be a CHANGE of scenery unless we ourselves are open to the CHANGE. Wherever we go, there we are. We are always the common denominator in life. Yesterday, today, tomorrow. If we want change, we need to begin with ourselves FIRST, because once we are able to “change the way we look at things, things change.” And it is quite possible that wherever we are sitting today, is actually the perfect place for our spirit and soul to grow. Eventually guiding us to a change of scenery for a fulfilled spirit, fed soul, and a better connection to life.