“What the Caterpillar Calls the End, the Rest of the World Calls a Butterfly” – Lao Tzu

A final piece Written for and Published in The Seeds 4 Life . 

Evolving. A seed becomes a tree. The ocean becomes rain. We become a heartbeat. It all begins, ends, and evolves into another life of its own.

Once a seed breaks through darkness, it reaches for the light and grows.

Once the ocean welcomes the sunrise, it lifts itself towards the light and celebrates the meeting of air and water.

Once the mother labors, the heartbeat is born into the light to grace it with its presence.

On the other side of darkness, lives the light. On the other side of an ending, lives a new beginning. And whatever WE call the end, may very well be a beautiful evolving into a new beginning.

 

“Stop Shrinking Yourself to Fit in Places You’ve Outgrown” – Unknown

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We hold on to what’s comfortable. We hold on so tightly, that we become part of it. Where we live, a significant other, a job, a habit. We believe we belong to it and it belongs to us. Even if it no longer makes us grow. Even if the shoe no longer fits, the love becomes stale, the job sucks at our soul, the habit becomes destructive – it’s comfortable and we hold on.

The thing about comfort is that it convinces us anything outside of it is too foreign to accept. Anything outside of it is scary. Anything outside of it will not fit. Anything outside of it is past our ability to understand. But our roots know better. Our roots know in order to grow, it needs to grow past comfort zones.

And if the things we belong to no longer serves our growth, if the love is stale, the shoe is too small, the job has left our soul thirsty, our habits have become destructive, we have contracted. We have forced ourselves to shrink. We have forced ourselves to fit into places our roots have grown past. Our roots know, it’s ok if we expand as well. Because LOVE is the energy that expands and FEAR is the energy that contracts.

So, choose LOVE. Grow. Expand. The other side of comfort waits.

“When You Blame Others, You Give up Your Power to Change” – Robert Anthony

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Just as our decisions will impact at least one person, we may be that one person another’s decision may impact. None of us are immune to the possible consequences of another’s reckless choice. However, we ourselves have a choice in how we react and what we take away from someone’s wrongdoing or indirect effect.

There is a time in our lives when we seem powerless. When we are children and we are at the mercy of our parents or caretakers. When we rely on them for security and compassion. When we are trusting of their care and love. We are vulnerable and are deserving of a safe and loving environment. Unfortunately, many of us are aware of, or are products of, circumstances where everything is needed but never provided. Many of us bear deep wounds that have yet to heal and scars that tell unbearable stories – but here we are. Even wounded and scarred, we are here; holding the responsibility of never doing the things that hurt us, to someone else.

Yes, the responsibility is now ours. To take everything that has been given to us and to alchemize it to better. To refuse, under any circumstance, to transfer our pain to someone else. To understand, when we continue to look for another to blame, the finger that points at them is also sending our power in that direction.

There are experiences that are painful and may have hardened our hearts, but those experiences will dictate our lives if we do not stand up to them and remind them, “You were a paragraph in my life. A bridge into another chapter. You are not the story itself. The only power I am allowing you to have is the power to propel me into change. A change for the better.”

“Wherever You Go, There You Are” – Unknown

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We sit and look around wishing for a change of scenery. Maybe to more tropical climates. Maybe far away from the hustle and bustle of life. Maybe closer to the sea or far into the woods. Wherever it may be, we are calling for a change of scenery.  Apparently, where we sit now is not fulfilling our spirit. What we see is not feeding our soul. We are not connected to the place we are living in.

A change of scenery is calling.

And some of us will answer that call and move ourselves to these places. To warmer climates. Closer to the sea or into the woods. We will again seek fulfillment for our spirit, for our soul. Looking outside to the world to fill our cup. And then we realize, this change of scenery is not what we thought it would be.

The beauty of a new place fades, we still seek fulfillment, we still seek.

Until we see our reflection in that window looking out into the world, we see ourselves. The same eyes, the same spirit, the same soul, waiting for the change of scenery to give us whatever we are asking for.  But how can a change of scenery give us – the same eyes, the same spirit, the same soul – the fulfillment we are demanding?

How can an unchanged perspective invite in change? How can a closed mind accept something different? How can we seek SOUL food when we stuff ourselves with egoic waste?

The change of scenery will not be a CHANGE of scenery unless we ourselves are open to the CHANGE. Wherever we go, there we are. We are always the common denominator in life. Yesterday, today, tomorrow. If we want change, we need to begin with ourselves FIRST, because once we are able to “change the way we look at things, things change.” And it is quite possible that wherever we are sitting today, is actually the perfect place for our spirit and soul to grow. Eventually guiding us to a change of scenery for a fulfilled spirit, fed soul, and a better connection to life.

Words of the Hero: “I Am My Fate” – Marty Rubin

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Circumstances may arise that will shake our world. These circumstances will be the earthquakes of our lives. They will come without warning and will wobble our world off of its axis. Some quakes, will shatter our lives so badly, we will have to rebuild. Some quakes, will shake us into realizations we may need in order to continue on living the life we intend to. We will be unprepared. We will be surprised.

In the unpreparedness, we may allow defeat to make a home inside of us. The reality of rebuilding after a crushing circumstance can seem impossible. It may send us into the abyss of seeing only the problem, completely blind to any solution and we will forget how to find our way out of this abyss.

In the surprise, we may allow fear to drive our ambition. The shock to our system of unforeseen circumstances may cause some anxiety in taking progressive steps toward our desired destination. We may rather be comfortable with fear paralyzing our efforts and standing still than risk taking steps forward.

However, circumstances are not presented to impede our stride towards the goal. They are presented to remind us of our capabilities, to pull us out of the comfort zone of the ordinary. To whisper to us to call upon the hero that is braver than any unexpected or overpowering circumstance, ourselves. We are the hammer in the rebuilding and the driver towards our destination. We are the heroes of our stories. We are the solution. We are the outcome. It is up to us. We can lay down in defeat, or get back up.

“Some Winds Take You Places, Others, They Remind You Why You Need Roots” – Kritika (Trigger the Wild)

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There are many days we step outside and allow the wind to play with our hair. It rushes through sky and trees to kiss our face. Some days we close our eyes and welcome it, and some days we cover our face and wish it away.

On the days we feel light and invite life to gift us with adventure, the winds will come and we will be packed and set to go. It will arrive with whichever direction we are willing to take and will carry us through a journey we have wished for ourselves.

On the days we feel burdened and need some space to be, it will arrive with a gust and test our strength. It will remind us of our roots and whisper to fear that it does not belong here. Because fear needs to realize, even the gust of a wind cannot shake what we have planted, and the gust of the wind will give us the space to prove just that.

Welcome the breeze, and welcome the gust. Depending on the days, they may take us on adventures or they may test our strength. Whichever arrives will be for our growth.

“When the Winds of Change Blow, Some People Build Walls and Others Build Windmills” – Chinese Proverb

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Some days the winds of change are light and some days a gust blows through and topples trees and levels homes. It seems as though a strong gust has blown right through many of our lives recently. Some of our homes are in shambles, and others are in need of minor repairs.

So what do we do? Curse the wind and hope it will have mercy the next time?  Or do we plant more trees and build stronger walls?  Change our perspective? Perhaps, these winds of change can benefit our survival? Perhaps, it arrives to blow away yesterday’s worries so we may begin again with a clean canvas; A foundation to build upon an improved version of ourselves, our homes, our world.

When the gust blows again, surely our homes will survive unscathed? Because the wind has taught us that when we break, we are to build ourselves stronger. When we lose our trees, we are to build new ones. And when it blows away our today, we are to look to accept it as a gift, a new foundation to apply our greater selves with a restored perspective for tomorrow.

“Life is Only as Good as Your Mindset.”-Unknown

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We’ve said ‘hello’ to 2017, many of us, with a list of resolutions to accomplish by December 31st. We have set our intentions, our standards, our expectations, and our definition of what it will be to succeed. With ambition and determination holding our hands and leading the way, we are off.

While you’re on your way, will you pull out that list of “Resolutions,” please? Do you happen to have the word “Mindset” at the top of your list? If not, would you consider adding it? 

Why, mindset? Because the same mindset which got us to the point of needing to self-improve cannot be used to do the actual self-improvement. We cannot hold hands with ambition and determination with a self-loathing, unfocused, or lazy mindset. That is the mindset that probably got us to the point where we needed to add new intentions, new standards, and new goals to our list. 

In order to arrive at December 31st, 2017 with a crossed off list, mindset will have to be the very first item we address and change. “Life is only as good as your mindset.”

Happy New Year and wishing you all a successful journey towards December 31st, 2017.