“Stop Shrinking Yourself to Fit in Places You’ve Outgrown” – Unknown

Written for and Published in The Seeds 4 Life.

We hold on to what’s comfortable. We hold on so tightly, that we become part of it. Where we live, a significant other, a job, a habit. We believe we belong to it and it belongs to us. Even if it no longer makes us grow. Even if the shoe no longer fits, the love becomes stale, the job sucks at our soul, the habit becomes destructive – it’s comfortable and we hold on.

The thing about comfort is that it convinces us anything outside of it is too foreign to accept. Anything outside of it is scary. Anything outside of it will not fit. Anything outside of it is past our ability to understand. But our roots know better. Our roots know in order to grow, it needs to grow past comfort zones.

And if the things we belong to no longer serves our growth, if the love is stale, the shoe is too small, the job has left our soul thirsty, our habits have become destructive, we have contracted. We have forced ourselves to shrink. We have forced ourselves to fit into places our roots have grown past. Our roots know, it’s ok if we expand as well. Because LOVE is the energy that expands and FEAR is the energy that contracts.

So, choose LOVE. Grow. Expand. The other side of comfort waits.

“The Trees Know That You Can Be Still and Grow at the Same Time” – Chris McGeown

Written for and Published in The Seeds 4 Life.

Growth does not always need to be loud. It does not always need to enter the room and scream at the top of its lungs “I am changed!” – It does not always need to shake things up like an earthquake exposing new lands above water. It does not always need to roll in like a hurricane, creating a path of destruction to be rebuilt. Growth can be still.

Admire the Oak tree and remember, it began in darkness as a tiny seed. It embraced the silence and nourished itself with the soil it was immersed in. Silently, it broke through to find the light and continued to reach up to it through wind, through cold, through rain, through heat. It grew through the years, but every day it was still.

Growth is for ourselves, and how we welcome the world. It does not need an announcement. It is for us to experience and to witness. It is for us to recognize and to accept. It is for us to continue, even in stillness.

Through the Chaos

Through the chaos we will find
What’s alive and what has died
What to keep, what to let go
What to change and what to grow
Which scars hurt, which have healed
What ego wants, how to feel
What is anger, what is patience
What is love, what is complacent
Through the chaos we will find
How to help heart-meet the mind

“Grow Through What You Go Through” – Unknown

Written for and Published in The Seeds 4 Life.

Many of us find ourselves in situations which take us out of our comfort zones.

Some may cause us anxiety and discomfort. Some may cause us to feel lost, looking for the light at the end of the tunnel. Some may even feel like a monotonous cycle of “stuck in a rut.”

Whatever our judgment of our situation, we can see it using our “comfort zone” as the perspective or we can see it using “opportunity” as the perspective.

The comfort zone perspective sets the situation up to be judged and compared.

The opportunity perspective sets the situation up to be an agent of change.

Growth cannot transpire in judgment and comparison. Growth transpires in change. If we are willing to be uncomfortable, growth will be the first to greet us, and our expanded mind will never shrink back to the comfort zone it began with.

So, go baby, go, and grow baby, grow!