I AM YOU ARE

I am not here to teach you
Life will do that
I am not here to judge you
You will do that
I am not here to take from you
You will give that
I am here to see myself
In parts of you I discover
I am here to find myself
In parts of you I do not understand
I am here to heal myself
In parts of you I do not accept

You are not here to teach me
Life will do that
You are not here to judge me
I will do that
You are not here to take from me
I will give that
You are here to see yourself
In parts of me you discover
You are here to find yourself
In parts of me you do not understand
You are here to heal yourself
In parts of me you don’t accept

 

The Three Types Of Relationships

  1. Lifetime Relationships

 A “lifetime” relationship is, as the name suggests, one that lasts a lifetime. These relationships flow with ease. Both partners are deeply committed and have a mutual affinity towards one another. Their love and connection is so strong that nothing can really break them apart.

Even in times of struggle and disconnect, they endure no matter the circumstances. There may be times when the partners do not see eye-to-eye with one another, experience frustration, or grow beyond the relationship; however, they always find a way to create balance and reconnect with each other in a healthy and loving way.

  1. Life-Giving Relationships

 A “life-giving” relationship is meant to put the spark back into your life and add a spring in your step. This person comes into your life to remind you of your values, your worth, and never to settle for less than you desire. He or she pushes you out of your norm by adding lots of fun and passion into your everyday so that you can live again. The relationship is full of energy and excitement.

You’ll know when you are in a life-giving relationship, because the relationship will be very intense. Life-giving relationships are either “fun, passionate or filled with chaos.” With this type of relationship, you can expect to experience lots of drama and eventually burn each other out with the ups and downs.

What’s important to understand with life-giving relationships is that they do not last very long. They may last anywhere from a brief “fling” to a two-year relationship; however, they are finite in duration.

The reason these relationships do not last long is because the person is not meant to be your lifetime partner. Instead, he or she has been sent to you as a soulmate to prepare you for your actual life partner—by serving as the doorway to your ideal relationship and teaching you all of the necessary lessons so that you can be a perfect match for someone else.

The biggest challenge most people have who are in these intense life-giving relationships is that they try to turn it into a lifetime relationship, to stay together forever. They try and try so hard, going back and forth, and struggling to make it work that eventually the relationship becomes more toxic and draining than healthy.

When these relationships end, know that this person will always be in your heart, you’ll love them dearly and possibly even have a hard time letting go. But when releasing this relationship, understand why he or she came into your life, what they were there to teach you, and also acknowledge why it is best for the relationship to end.

  1. Purposeful Relationships

The most common and prevalent relationship that many tend to experience is the “purposeful” relationship. Two people are “tethered” together for a specific purpose, whether the purpose may to be help each other heal, spiritual growth, build a family or business together—whatever the purpose may be.

One purposeful relationship I had in the past was to help me overcome a previous heartache and to teach me to value myself more. Through that relationship I learned to feel comfortable with being vulnerable and letting my true self shine.

Purposeful relationships can last anywhere from one year to even decades. However, as with life-giving relationships, they too aren’t meant to last forever. Generally, when the purpose of having come together has been fulfilled, the relationship will reach a natural conclusion.

You will know when you are in the purposeful relationship when the relationship ends or takes a drastic turn. This is when cheating, disconnect or disappointment is likely to occur. The relationship and connection changes, but no matter what, the previous warmth and love is nearly impossible to relive.

The purpose for the relationship may not always be clear. You may believe it’s meant to last forever, but for some reason the relationship doesn’t seem to progress beyond a certain point—at least not to that deeply loving and committed lifetime level that you may desiring. Often times, it isn’t until the relationship has ended and you have either moved on or had time to reflect that you realize the purpose for which you two came together in that particular time and space.

The most pain and frustration occurs when one or both partners try to make a purposeful relationship into a lifetime relationship. It isn’t meant to go the distance, and no amount of effort will push it to that level. Many have a hard time with this harsh reality and refuse to believe the relationship essentially is over, causing them to hold on tightly and stay in unfulfilled relationships longer than necessary, thus causing more pain and heartache.

If all you are experiencing is pain and feeling as though you are fighting an uphill battle in the relationship, it is important to stop all effort and pay attention to your emotions. It may be time to let go and allow in a new phase.

Source: Iyanla Vanzant and Lisa Nichols

My Love…

Alex Grey's 'Cosmic Lovers"
Alex Grey’s ‘Cosmic Lovers’
“‘My love, you are a river fed by many streams.
I bless all who have shaped you,
The lovers whose delights still dance patterns on your back,
Those who carved your channels deeper, broader, wider,
Whitewater and backwater lovers,
Swamp lovers, sun-warmed estuary lovers,
Lovers with surface tension,
Lovers like boulders,
Like ice forming and breaking,
Lovers that fill and spill with the tides.
I bless those who have taught you
and those who have pleased you,
and those who have hurt you,
All those who have made you who you are.’”

— excerpt from The Fifth Sacred Thing: Starhawk

A wild woman, A wild man- by Alison Nappi and Aubrey Marcus

A wild woman is not a girlfriend. She is a relationship with nature-by Alison Nappi

But can you love me in the deep? In the dark? In the thick of it?

Can you love me when I drink from the wrong bottle and slip through the crack in the floorboard?

Can you love me when I’m bigger than you, when my presence blazes like the sun does, when it hurts to look directly at me?

Can you love me then too?

Can you love me under the starry sky, shaved and smooth, my skin like liquid moonlight?

Can you love me when I am howling and furry, standing on my haunches, my lower lip stained with the blood of my last kill?

When I call down the lightning, when the sidewalks are singed by the soles of my feet, can you still love me then?

What happens when I freeze the land, and cause the dirt to harden over all the pomegranate seeds we’ve planted?

Will you trust that Spring will return?

Will you still believe me when I tell you I will become a raging river, and spill myself upon your dreams and call them to the surface of your life?

Can you trust me, even though you cannot tame me?

Can you love me, even though I am all that you fear and admire?

Will you fear my shifting shape?

Does it frighten you, when my eyes flash like your camera does?

Do you fear they will capture your soul?

Are you afraid to step into me?

The meat-eating plants and flowers armed with poisonous darts are not in my jungle to stop you from coming. Not you.

So do not worry. They belong to me, and I have invited you here.

Stay to the path revealed in the moonlight and arrive safely to the hut of Baba Yaga: the wild old wise one… she will not lead you astray if you are pure of heart.

You cannot be with the wild one if you fear the rumbling of the ground, the roar of a cascading river, the startling clap of thunder in the sky.

If you want to be safe, go back to your tiny room — the night sky is not for you.

If you want to be torn apart, come in. Be broken open and devoured. Be set ablaze in my fire.

I will not leave you as you have come: well dressed, in finely-threaded sweaters that keep out the cold.

I will leave you naked and biting. Leave you clawing at the sheets. Leave you surrounded by owls and hawks and flowers that only bloom when no one is watching.

So, come to me, and be healed in the unbearable lightness and darkness of all that you are.

There is nothing in you that can scare me. Nothing in you I will not use to make you great.

A wild woman is not a girlfriend. She is a relationship with nature. She is the source of all your primal desires, and she is the wild whipping wind that uproots the poisonous corn stalks on your neatly tilled farm.

She will plant pear trees in the wake of your disaster.

She will see to it that you shall rise again.

She is the lover who restores you to your own wild nature.

The male inspired response:

A wild man is not a boyfriend, he is a force.- by Aubrey Marcus

Can you love me in the blinding heat of a birthing star, when I shower warmth on distant moons?

Can you love me in the hole of the cosmic Black, where no one can reach me? Not even you?

Can you love me then too?

Can you love me when I drag buffalo skulls through the dirt for days, to the rhythm of an ancient drum?

Will you love me if my beard hides the scars in my heart, from battles I cannot explain?

WIll you love me when I lack courage, when I am defeated, when I won’t let you patch my wounds?

WIll you trust me when I smell of sweetgrass and sage, and when I stink of whiskey and sweat?

When I drink from the cup and play in astral light, will you anchor me to Home?

What happens when my words don’t work, and I can speak with only my eyes?

Can you love me enough to let me go, without asking me where I’ll be?

I am no poodle to lay groomed on a leash at your feet. I am the wolf that fetches the bones of truth.

A wild man is not a boyfriend. He’s not built for animal husbandry. He is a force. He is a cause for an effect. He is a mission.

Are you afraid to let me inside you? Not just my flesh, but my soul. The wild man is neither burglar or vandal. I will not take anything from you. I will not trample on sprouting seeds or pick flowers as a trophy. I am the sun on flooded fields and the fire for tangled webs.

Don’t be scared, lover, mother, maiden, crone. Take me as I am.

Even if I have the power to destroy worlds, I will not destroy you.

A wild man is a protector. A father. A warrior for all that is good.

When the chaos seeks to obliterate you, sheering your flesh from bone, I will hold all the pieces together in love, until you are ready to reassemble.

When your seas boil, and your winds throw cars at corn fields, I will wait patiently for you to catch my eye, so that both of us can laugh.

When Hell opens up the fiery gates, and sends all the cosmos against you… I plant my heels deep in the ground. I lay my shield low. My sword is sharp then, my love. The steel sings sweetly. With a smile, Hoka Hey! My last breath a farewell kiss. Today is a good day to die.

For ours is the oldest love affair. The greatest story ever told. Cupid and Psyche, Shiva and Shakti, You and I.

Same same but different. Would we have it any other way?

A wild man is not a boyfriend. He is a force.

Love Language

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What’s the love language that speaks to you

For you to believe one’s love is true?

What’s the way for one to solve

How to win your heart and love?

Are you the one that takes to words?

It’s not the action, it’s what you heard?

It’s the “I love you, dear. You’re beautiful”

That makes the love so wonderful?

Are you the one that needs to see

A promise in action without plea?

The doing after the “..it will be done”?

Is that how your lovely heart is won?

Are you the one that likes a box?

Flowers, diamonds, gifts unlock

The love that your heart loosely holds?

Unwrapping gifts, then love unfolds?

Are you the one that needs the time

Of the one you love to feel sublime?

To have attention that’s undivided

Is that how you want love provided?

Are you the one that needs to feel

The lips, the hands, the touch that’s real?

To have their body next to yours

Is that how love for you is ensured?

How love speaks to you, I may not know

But consider knowing how YOUR love flows

So we may love and get in return

The love we give and the love we yearn.