“When You Blame Others, You Give up Your Power to Change” – Robert Anthony

Written for and Published in The Seeds 4 Life.

Just as our decisions will impact at least one person, we may be that one person another’s decision may impact. None of us are immune to the possible consequences of another’s reckless choice. However, we ourselves have a choice in how we react and what we take away from someone’s wrongdoing or indirect effect.

There is a time in our lives when we seem powerless. When we are children and we are at the mercy of our parents or caretakers. When we rely on them for security and compassion. When we are trusting of their care and love. We are vulnerable and are deserving of a safe and loving environment. Unfortunately, many of us are aware of, or are products of, circumstances where everything is needed but never provided. Many of us bear deep wounds that have yet to heal and scars that tell unbearable stories – but here we are. Even wounded and scarred, we are here; holding the responsibility of never doing the things that hurt us, to someone else.

Yes, the responsibility is now ours. To take everything that has been given to us and to alchemize it to better. To refuse, under any circumstance, to transfer our pain to someone else. To understand, when we continue to look for another to blame, the finger that points at them is also sending our power in that direction.

There are experiences that are painful and may have hardened our hearts, but those experiences will dictate our lives if we do not stand up to them and remind them, “You were a paragraph in my life. A bridge into another chapter. You are not the story itself. The only power I am allowing you to have is the power to propel me into change. A change for the better.”

“Speak Only If It Improves Upon the Silence” – Gandhi

Written for and Published in The Seeds 4 Life.

In silence, some of our minds are loud. Many of us are rummaging through all the clutter that pollutes our train of thought and often times, we reveal through oral dictation, the very polluted thoughts we have; from biased opinions, to judgments, and uneducated guesses, to rotten remarks. Silence has had no choice but to be invaded by the unfiltered thinking cap of our brain and the lack of consideration of our ego; an off-key composition.

Our words are our responsibility. It is our music. What we say and what we write, shapes our ability to impact our world. The way we speak to people, the way we speak to ourselves impacts the energy we are sharing with one another. We are directly accountable for how we make a person, a discussion, and a room full of people feel after we have disrupted the silence living there before we shared our thoughts.

A polluted mind cannot speak well into the silence. It needs to sit with it, allowing the silence to aid it in clearing the air. To introduce notes to complete a lovely tune. Once the air is clear, silence will welcome the words that will fill the air with the melody of our song. Please make it one worth singing, followed by a standing ovation.

Since Nov. 12, 2016

10 things I have learned since November 12th, 2016…

10. “You can sway a thousand men by appealing to their prejudices quicker than you can convince one man by logic.” Robert A. Heinlein

9. Most people listen with the intent to reply, not to understand.

8. A divided people are easier to distract.

7. Fear is the driver, picking up hate and making it its passenger.

6. The media is very well educated in psychology.

5. It is easier to throw responsibility into destruction, than to take responsibility into construction.

4. Hindsight is 20/20 with a major case of amnesia.

3. History is bias, as is opinion.

2. Love lives. Compassion lives.
But we only call for it when fear arrives and hate steps out of that passenger seat.

1. No need to “save” the planet. Save each other, because in saving each other, we will save our home. If we don’t, the Earth is alive and it will heal itself…but as far as humanity? “We’re going away. Pack your shit, folks. We’re going away. And we won’t leave much of a trace, either. Maybe a little Styrofoam … The planet’ll be here and we’ll be long gone. Just another failed mutation. Just another closed-end biological mistake. An evolutionary cul-de-sac. The planet’ll shake us off like a bad case of fleas.” -George Carlin

“You Are Responsible for the Energy You Bring Into a Space” – Jill Bolte Taylor

Written for and Published in The Seeds 4 Life.

“Hello, my name is….” and your energy has introduced itself.

In a space full of people or in a space with just one, our energy is the invisible business card that is handed out before we even open our mouths to say our given name. It is the invisible field which travels a foot in front of us when we enter a room and the residue left behind when we leave it. It is the imprint we leave on the space we have occupied.

And the only person responsible for this business card, invisible field, residue, and imprint is not the person who is judging it, but the person who is bringing it.

Surely we have all been guilty of having a bad day and entering a room with our baggage, but how many of us made sure to leave it by the door so nobody else had to carry it?

Surely we all have been guilty of judging a stranger, but how many of us have reflected on that judgment at that moment?  If we are judging this stranger based on the energy they entered the room with, how is OUR energy reflecting us as a person?

Surely we all have been guilty of blaming an argument on the other party, but how many of us have taken the time to reflect on the energy we brought into the space to allow things to escalate?

Surely we all have been guilty of falling prey to existing negative energetic fields, but how many of us have taken the time to change our own energetic contribution to change the frequency of a room?

A space is a place of potential. Potential to be transformed into the world which best reflects our intentions. It is out of those intentions we create the world we are living and participating in.

Energy flows into our intentions and there is no better person than ourselves to ensure our energy is providing our intentions with the very best our human heart has to offer. Every space deserves it and you have the responsibility to bring it.

The Web

 
Blinded by the glaring sun
Tangled in a web, beautifully spun
Trying to release myself from its hold
It grabs on tighter, intending I fold
And so I let my resistance go
Explore this web, dive to the unknown
I find myself holding its strings
As if I was broken with clipped wings
I know very well I may fly away
But the tangled mess invites me to stay

“Remember, When You Point a Finger at Someone, There Are Three More Pointing Back at You” – Unknown

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How easy it is for us to point at each other and criticize one another’s shortcomings, flaws, and wrong doings? How easy it is for us to point at each other and blame one another for our hurts and disappointments?

While we are blaming and criticizing others, we are forgetting one important fact: when we point the finger at someone, three of them are pointed right back at us.  They point back at us to remind us that regardless of who or what we may feel is responsible for our current state and situation, ultimately, the responsibility is ours. We have three times more control than the one we point our finger to. We also have three times more responsibility than the one we point our finger to.

They also point back at us to remind us, the imperfections we point out in others are also in us. When we are pointing at another’s shortcoming’s and flaws, we are only defining ourselves as intolerant and judgmental. Those three fingers pointed back at us reminds us to self-reflect and recognize, and accept our imperfections and shortcomings instead of pointing them out in another.

When we point our finger at the world, we give up control of where and what we are. This shifts responsibilities for our actions and reactions to others, when in fact, it is ours. We are responsible for our actions, as well as our consequences.  We can either be slaves to the belief the world is to blame or we can recognize we are powerful beings in this world, capable of creating love and positive change.

As Mahatma Gandhi once encouraged, “BE THE CHANGE.” This does not begin by pointing the finger, it begins by paying attention to the three pointed back at ourselves.