Written for and Published in The Seeds 4 Life.
Just as our decisions will impact at least one person, we may be that one person another’s decision may impact. None of us are immune to the possible consequences of another’s reckless choice. However, we ourselves have a choice in how we react and what we take away from someone’s wrongdoing or indirect effect.
There is a time in our lives when we seem powerless. When we are children and we are at the mercy of our parents or caretakers. When we rely on them for security and compassion. When we are trusting of their care and love. We are vulnerable and are deserving of a safe and loving environment. Unfortunately, many of us are aware of, or are products of, circumstances where everything is needed but never provided. Many of us bear deep wounds that have yet to heal and scars that tell unbearable stories – but here we are. Even wounded and scarred, we are here; holding the responsibility of never doing the things that hurt us, to someone else.
Yes, the responsibility is now ours. To take everything that has been given to us and to alchemize it to better. To refuse, under any circumstance, to transfer our pain to someone else. To understand, when we continue to look for another to blame, the finger that points at them is also sending our power in that direction.
There are experiences that are painful and may have hardened our hearts, but those experiences will dictate our lives if we do not stand up to them and remind them, “You were a paragraph in my life. A bridge into another chapter. You are not the story itself. The only power I am allowing you to have is the power to propel me into change. A change for the better.”